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We went out on Friday night and the date as a whole went well. Its now Sunday night. My dad told me that it would be best to call on Tuesday because its not good if the girls thinks that your over anxious.

By the way at the end of our first date we were French kissing and I took off my shirt after about 20 minutes of kissing. I was making out with her for about 45 minutes. She’s 20 and I’m 18.

I’m having a debate with a female buddy of mine about this. Should a guy call back first after a first date or should a girl? Also, for the girls, do you take it as a sign of non-interest if a guy doesn’t call back after a first date?

I helped putting them together. He was lonely; she was lonely. All the time–even during their initial dating stages–he used to call me and other female friends. I was invited to a family dinner party with them, and she made certain remarks behind my back, but I did not care less. Then two months or less later, he stops calling the girls all together. We call him every once in a while to not get a returned call or SMS text. What’s up with that? Because he now has her, he probably does not need our friendships anymore.

I do not agree with these "games" in dating, but I know that they happen. So I’m not asking for opinions on if guys SHOULD "wait." I think it’s pointless, but it still happens.

I’m just asking… how long do you think most guys wait after a first date to call? That is assuming, of course, that they do call. Also, why do you think they wait for that amount of time?

Thanks. Men and women both welcome to answer…

he is guy that i have had most interest in . he is coming over to watch movies at my house with me and maybe cuddle . he lived in my city lots before but recently moved back here .We same age . every email we have he calls me gorgeous,etc and even calls my daughter gorgeous also from seeing her on my facebook pics .i have not dated for long time . over year and half though i have met lots guys from this site before and they turned into one nighters and i got tired that and he told me he hates one night stands ,had it once when he was bartender,etc. He wants relationship but said you have to date get to know person first as a lot of girls have cheated on him,etc. He seems so sweet , he tells me this is first time he meets someone online as he knew his previous dates,etc so i don’t know what to think. I was one who made initial first contact by email and now we talk facebook also and now we meeting .I am super excited but i want it to go well. Any advice ? How can you tell his motives ( sex,etc ) ? he also wants meet new people and find a girlfriend and i a boyfriend but you never know interior motives.
my daughter does not live with me but i see her lots but i won’t leave her alone with him until i know him lot more or maybe not ever or not for longest time. for sure i will be careful.
i know i made stupid choice having him over to my place to watch movies . my daughter is not with me today ,i have a friend here also though my friend will leave in like a hour or two .soon after her gets here my friend will probably have to leave. So ya.

How long do you wait for a call after the first date? Should I wait for him to call or should I call him? What are the rules about the first call?

As a guy in my early 20s and in college and with a lazy eye condition, I’ve beens seeking (more) treatment for it. I had surgery/eye patches as a kid, but it didn’t totally correct it. My eyes don’t work/move together and I’m totally self-conscious over it. Initial eye contact w/ people is awkward. Although i think sometimes I think too much of it. B/c this one guy in HS never noticed it and then we got to college together and one day he’s all, "Dang man, you have a lazy eye? Since when? You didn’t have that in high school."

Anyway I’ve never had problems getting dates. And yet I read online about forty y/o who never had a g/f and were virgins, and others who’re asking if they could get dates w/ this condition.

Am I just lucky?

Just two month ago, I went on a 1st date w/ this cute Asian, college graduate, and she was making out with me after the movies. Holding my hand walking to her car. Texting me afterwards. Hugging me for like 20 minutes. Another girl, within three dates, was
making out with me, giving me lap dances in clubs, OFFERED to give me head, and wanting to be my girlfriend. Granted she was a few lbs overweight but only b/c she had an accident and couldn’t work out. I saw pictures of her a year previously and she was hot lol.

In high school, I had girls giving me head under the gym bleachers lol.

I’ve had one SERIOUS girlfriend, like where we were building a future together etc. Gave her a promise ring, moved in together for awhile etc. And she was fit and attractive.

Anyway am I lucky that I’ve encountered these girls who never had a prob. with it (my lazy eye was never even mentioned)? Or is this what the majority of girls/people are like?

And I heard people w/ lazy eye have trouble with depth perception…what is this exactly? I don’t THINK I have trouble seeing in 3D objects. If I’m looking straight ahead, I don’t feel I have a lazy eye. But when I look left/right one of my eyes stays straight and then I notice I’m looking 2 diff ways.

So I’m 18 and I met this chick thats 19 online. I know she’s interested cause I got her number and she texted to see if we could chill this weekend. The problem is from what I can tell she seems to be the real quiet shy type up front untill you get to know her. So what are some things we could talk about/ i could ask her that might get her on that blabbing rampage that women do and the guy just listens. I’m definately more of a listener than a talker and I don’t want this first call to be awkward. What would be a good first date also? I was thinking maybe put put or mountasia that way we will have more to talk about. What do yall think?

He’s 26 I’m 22 and we went out to dinner and a movie for the first date. I met him through my sister’s boyfriend and we hit it off. He followed up with me a few days after the initial meeting and got my number and called me a few times to ask how my week had been and to go out on Thursday night. During the date we had great conversation, I was making him laugh a lot and he seemed interested. There weren’t any awkward moments; the date was full of funny story telling and intellectual conversation. We got along pretty well. At the end of the night we kissed pretty passionately and then he left. I texted him about 20 minutes later and said "thanks for dinner and the movie I had a lot of fun!" and he said "of course talia! (talia is an inside joke name we made during the date) I had a lot of fun, sleep well!" I didn’t respond to that text he sent me (i didn’t feel it required a response and I had already fallen asleep). Regardless, it has been 3 days and he hasn’t contacted me! my sister and her boyfriend have hungout with him and my name has not come up. He is a gentleman and an old school guy (paid for me, holds open doors, etc) and I was told by his friends that he wouldn’t play any "games." my question is….since he’s sort of shy…..if he’s not responding because he thinks I’m not interested!? I was initiating the kiss at the end of the date so he’s got to know!
should I text him a friendly hello?

Do guys purposely play this game?

he seemed to be interseted than all of a sudden stopped until i sent him a racy email he responded but now hes doing the same thing again hes really sweet and he first made the initial contact hes adoctor and lives in another state from me aside from the racy emails do i stand a chance at something developing or should i give up the last time was about almost two weeks he tried im me i really think hes interseted or is he what do i do stop emailng him or should i give him time to think about me?

I had a great lunch date with this girl. I know she is out of town for the weekend and I don’t want to contact her too soon and look needy. I’d like to ask her on a dinner date and maybe a movie. Is waiting 3 days to call about right or do you think otherwise? Thanks

Im looking for some advice particularly military men and women. Idk even know how to explain it… there’s this guy. We met during my freshman year and he was a senior, we met through mutual friends. We called ourselves dating for 3 mnths but I broke up with him because I thought he was going to college, and would forget about me or dump me anyway. But instead of going to college he joined the marines. After the breakup we didnt talk for like another 3mnths because we lost contact with each other. During the mnths we didnt talk my mimd began to wonder about what ifs and I began to regret my decision so I wrote him an email on myspace explaining myself and when he got it he replied back but he was in basic training in S.I. but then I started to 2nd guess my decision again so i stopped talking 2 him. Then I waited another 3 mnths and this time i told him everything. But i guess I was a little late because he was sent to N.C. and S.C. to finish up training and he met a couple girls but he had 1 main chick, he bought her promise ring and everything. So I was crush because I had to wait 3mnths b4 I could get in contact with him. So when we first started talking again he seemed interersted then all of a sudden he was like he wanted to move on with his life and he didnt see me in it. So i tried to get my best friend to talk to him and he came clean to her and told her he had a gf and what not. So of course she told me. and he finally told me the truth so even though I still wanted him I no longer wanted to pursue this relationship because I felt like it was a lost cause he was in N.C. at the time and was gettin ready to go to V.A. while I was in N.Y. Im a newbie to this whole relationship and dating thing. So Im a strong believr in this do unto others motto so again I cut it off. He also didnt wanted to pursue it because of our 4yr age difference bt he left me confused because he told me how he wanted to be with me and that he wish i was at least 18 so we could be together.Even though he sounded sincere it still sounds like bullshit. So never the less we stopped talking and 2mnths later when he finally arrived to V.A. for like a month. He called me out the blue at first just to see how I was doing and to update me on how he was adjusting to the south because I’m originally from S.C. Then he continued to call me everynight just small talk. 2days after his initial call he tells me that his gf broke up with him because she didnt want to be tied down just yet or whatever. So we originally agreed that we would remain friends so I tried to console him.. I laughed to myself about the situation because karma is a *****. He put me through alot those mnths prior to this call. So he aplogized to me and it seemed as though he was trying to get back with me or whatever. Even though he put me in so much pain I still wanted to be with him. Idk why I became so attached to him. He was my 1st real bf (we never slept together) my mother knew about him, my family knew of him. This was a big deal. So he came up 2 visit me 4 my bday wknd n see his friends n family b4 his leave. ( o i forgot he was being sent 2 Japan for 2yrs 4 duty). This was the 1st time I saw him in 1yr. We hung out a little bit an d I was ok with that because I knew he had to spend time with his fam n friends I understood that. After he left all the littl weak parts in our relationship fell apart all the lies he told me I could see them clearly. Idk how came to my sudden relization. So when he arrived 2 V.A, he didnt call me he changed his phone and he didnt tell me so i didnt call him 4 3days. this was a change because we talked 2 each other every nite. So he messaged me on myspace and asked me how come I stopped calling him and if I was mad with him. I was but I said no. So all my replys to hm were with alot of attitude. So he called me 5min later so i told him how i felt and I blew up his spot about lying 2 me about his name and relationship status and stuff he also lied about his age but I knew about that. He gave me a lame excuse that he gave his old phone 2 a friend because he finally got the iphone he wanted. He also lied about the time he left NY so when I tld him all the lies he tld me he laughed and called me crazy and he was so intrigued that i knew all of this. so i tried to ween myself off of him bt he kept coming on stronger 2 me. 2wks later around the time I was suppose to go to V.A. for his graduation he tells me his ex who he also lied to me about bt thats a different story was 4 or 5mnths pregnant and she just told him. So of course I was pissed and a little hurt because things were going well now. Bt i look at it this way: What’s done is done, there was nothing that I could do about it. so i was still willing to stay by his side.Bt it seems as though his ex wanted 2 get 2 friendly so she came dwn and spent a wknd with him so they could tlk about the baby.
He also said that his officer forced him 2 take a paternity test? Can they do that and how so if the baby wasnt born yet? Hmmm … makes you think right? She was so forward that she even called his mom and told her 1st.This part still seems fishy 2 me bcuz if u r 4mnths how do u kno the sex 4 ur baby? Bt 2 make this shorter he broke up wit me 4 her bcuz "he didnt want his baby to grow up like him" he told me that she propsed 2 him n they were planning 2 gt married n Apr.Weird fact her bday is apr. 12 n mines is Apr 13th , his bday is Nov.13th n my previous bf(dnt really count him though) was Nov.11th n he was n the army reserves they r also the sam age. ideleted my myspace so he couldnt contact me. He created a facebook n looked me up n requested me. I accepted him out of curiousty n we’ve been talkin 4 bout a wk. At 1st he apologized n tld me how he made a mistake or wateva n thathimandher broke up nda baby wasnt his n dat she lied 2 him. da nxt day he wanted 2 b friends bt da nxt da
bt da nxt day he wants 2 tell me how he <3 n misses me. We were tlkin about his cell phone and he tld me he didnt wanna give me his number because I would call 2 much.. When in fact I doubt I would call he was also like it would cost me alot. But my final question is what should I do 4 my situation? Because I honestly dnt kno I’m a newbie 2 relationships.

I’m interested to know how others feel their personal planets (especially the big three-sun, moon, and rising) work with and against one another? An optional addition…if you could change one of your personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) – which would it be and how do you feel it would positively influence the rest of your natal chart?

My Stats:

Cancer Ascendant
Aquarius Sun
Gemini Moon
Pisces Mercury
Pisces Venus
Sagittarius Mars

What I love is that I have a combination that is both logical and sympathetic to others. I have been aware of my psychic abilities since age 4 though I can only assign a name to these intense feelings and premonitions in hindsight. I can read people without any verbal communication and have found this to be either a blessing or a curse. Some don’t want to be read and, without words, I feel I have violated their space in a sense. I have yet to come across a way of "shutting it off". On the flip side, I often hear from people I’ve only just met "I feel you’ve known me for a lifetime" and can tell they are pleased by this. My skills in education are exemplified by my sun and moon in air signs.

The downside is that while my initial image and communication is one of deep empathy and understanding…it’s too much at times and I feel a need to "save the world". This has confused many when I need an abundance of alone time to "recharge" my battery. In other words, I show a side capable of deep emotional connection in first meeting someone but can appear very withdrawn and calculating at other times.

My Pisces Venus has become jaded as I did begin my dating years full of romantic notions and the belief in universal love. A few heartbreaks that proved positively shattering and I think I have over intellectualized all potential relationships in the past 2 years to a point of reasoning my way out of any new partners.

I would change my rising to Libra, my Mercury to Aquarius, Pisces to Aries (I’m in the latest degrees of Aquarius so it’s possible). I’m quite happy with my Sun, Moon, and Mars.

There are tell tale signs that these individuals are frauds: they always have the same story – mixed race, living somewhere in the US and they want you to email them or call them on the initial contact. Has anyone else experienced this fraudulent activity?

I went out with a guy I just met last Friday. I’m not even sure if you could call it a date but we had an interesting and fun time. What kind of impression did I give off? Who knows since I haven’t been on a real date in over 4 years! Looking back, he might think I’m uninterested in him…but really I found him to be very engaging! I would love to get to know him more but I’m not sure he feels the same way!

Had a first date today over coffee…was decent…plenty of conversation and no dead spots…she just wasn’t as flirtatious/bubbly as most girls I date and had trouble with eye contact.

Its a little odd since she pursued me at first giving me her #. Granted we were at a bar…then gave me a call to reconfirm before we were supposed to meet up. Makes me think she was interested for sure beforehand.

I can’t imagine having done much on the date to throw things off and plenty of good coversation. Just her initial signs of interest were very much on hold during our "date" itself. Or she was just nervous…

Date ended as I had class (we’re both college students). I ended up being a little late to class b/c of it and was joking about it before we went our seperate ways…texted her something to the effect of "I’m 30 min. late. I’m gonna have to blame you" and no follow up from her…wonder what’s going on in her head?

I’m having some major issues with my landlord and I very much need some advice on what actions to take and what my rights are. Here’s the long and short of what’s going on:

I live in Brooklyn, NY and since June I have been renting a basement apartment within a brownstone house with another girl. There is no written lease and both I and my roommate pay the landlord individually. My landlord lives in the apartment above us. It is a separate apartment in a 3 apartment house. We don’t share anything other than the foyer with anyone else in the house.

Lately my landlord has been acting very strangely, particularly toward myself. There was a situation where I had accidentally locked myself out of the house and my only option was to take the air conditioner out of my window and drop down into my room. When he came to put the window back in (he’d previously taken it out in order to put the a/c in) he said that he didn’t believe me and accused me of having someone else come in through the window. He also accused me of giving him a counterfeit with my rent payment, among other unusual things. One night he even came into our apartment late at night when my roommie was asleep and sat down at our kitchen table in the dark, making me very uncomfortable.

Last night it escalated when a couple of my friends were over (not a big party, just 3 friends talking and hanging out at a fairly reasonable hour). He calls me up and tells me that I need to find an other apartment and that I’m no longer allowed to have guests over period. That he doesn’t like people being here and that he’d had complaints, etc. When I tried talking to him calmly about it he just got very angry and would not try to communicate with me in a reasonable way. My roommate also got notification from him of not being allowed to have guests.

During the phone call with him he said that I am not renting an apartment from him, that I am merely renting a room. During our initial communication, when he responded to my ad when I was looking for a place, he specified that it was indeed an apartment. I saved those emails. I also specified in my ad what my lifestyle is like, so it’s not like he didn’t know. I never hid anything. I was under the impression that I was renting an apartment and that he would just be a landlord and nothing more, that he would have no say in what I do in my home. There was absolutely never any discussion about rules that he had. He never told me that he had complaints until last night. He never talked to me to try to work things out or to let me know he or anyone else was being disturbed. I have never skipped out on rent, though was late by a few days on two occasions. I have always been super nice and friendly toward him and have tried to be as considerate as possible. Really, most of the time I totally keep to myself and prefer to be invisible. But he seems to just have it out for me. My roommate had never had an issue until now and she’s lived here much longer than me.

I should also note that he blocked our main exit out of the house (said he was concerned about a lawsuit if someone hurt themselves on the steps), which is the safest fire exit. And until I said something about it, there were no smoke or gas alarms in the house. He did put one in, but in a very impractical place. So I’ve been concerned about that as well.

He hasn’t given me a set date to leave. There have been no papers served. He said he’ll wait for me to find a place, but I’m very concerned that he’s going to really snap and do something crazy because he’s shown big signs of not being mentally/emotionally stable. I’m very much intimidated by him. I don’t know what he’s capable of. I’m made to not feel safe in my own home that I’m paying rent for. So I’m not sure at all how to deal with this man. Any advice will be much appreciated.
I have to stay at least 2 more months in order to have enough money to get into a new place. I’m broke and everyone I know is broke. I need to know my rights because I know this man is going to cause a lot of grief until I’m out.

If you think a girl you like would potentially be interested in building toward a steady relationship, based on your initial communication and what you already know about her (and you’re interested in a serious relationship too), how to do you discuss this?

Going on a first date with her next week, and I obviously don’t want to move too fast, too soon and mess things up of course…but at the same time, since I already know she’s the kind of girl who’s interested in building toward a steady relationship, -and- I am too as a guy, what approach and time frame would you recommend as far as addressing the issue? For example, is this something that would be well-suited for discussion on a third or fourth date (if things go well)?
Reply to Suzy: um not talking about marriage, *way way* too early to even think about that…I’m just talking about steady or serious dating with her.

There’s this girl I’ve got on my mind. I’ve seen her a few times but I’m not sure how to proceed to get in contact with her. I just graduated from high school and she’s a year younger than me. My best friend is a sophomore like her, and they’re in the same class, that’s how I first noticed her. I’m realizing I won’t come across her all that much, since I’m done with school and all. So, because the opportunities to meet her most likely will be few and far between, I really need to be "effective" if this is gonna get anywhere.

I’m really curious about this girl, but I’m not used to this kind of social dilemma. I’m not sure about the initial contact scene here. I don’t feel that ‘randomly approaching and striking up a conversation’, like one would in a bar for example, would be all that fitting in this kind of setting, that is the school setting. Sure, if there was an obvious opening, or another reason for this kind of approach, other than my for her unknown motives, then fine. Problem is I can’t seem to find that, since I would most likely seem out of place, drifting around at school after graduation. My reason for being there is of course my friend, or it would seem anyway, but my reason for approaching her and trying to get a conversation going, can’t really be camouflaged. That being said, it really doesn’t have to be, but I have a hard time seeing a conversation like that, in a situation like that, with obvious intentions on my part, accually going anywhere good.

Sorry for the somewhat confusing explanations, I just felt like giving you good enough details in the case, to be able to help.

So, simply put, how would you suggest I go about doing this? I’m not after sex, I’m not even after a date, yet. I just wanna get in contact with her, and be able to sustain it! Then I guess we’ll see where things go from there.

And no, my friend isn’t that close with her, they don’t really hang out, so having him inviting me to hang out with them isn’t gonna happen.

The scenario I described isn’t gonna play out for a few months because obviously, school’s out. And if I would happen to randomly come across her at a party or whatever during the summer, I might not even need this advice, but assuming I’ll go for her in the environment and with the circumstances I described above, any thoughts would be appreciated.

Thanks.